“It’s not easy to give up your childish expectation of fairness.” – Phil Stutz, The Tools
We know life isn’t fair. Someone takes your parking space. You work harder than your colleague but they get the cool new project. The concert sells out the minute you make it through the queue. The world is unfair, period. It doesn’t matter how “good” you are and complaining about it won’t change a thing. Pretty soon you’ll find yourself trapped in the Maze (link – I need to write this article still).
What if you stopped waiting for things to be fair and instead experienced something much more powerful? I call this state “Outflow”. Think of Outflow as love in its highest form, an infinite spiritual force that gives of itself without restraint. In this state anything is possible. We’re more powerful than we can imagine.
So how do we get there? Active Love.
Imagine that you’re surrounded by a warm liquid light that is infinitely loving. Feel your heart expand far beyond you to become one with this love. As you bring your heart back to normal size, this infinite energy concentrates itself inside your chest. It’s an unstoppably loving force that wants to give itself away.
Visualize the person who’s triggered your anger. Send all the love in your chest directly to them; hold nothing back. It’s like completely expelling a deep breath.
Follow the love as it leaves your chest. When it enters the other person at their solar plexus, don’t just watch. Feel it enter. This will give you the sense that you’re completely at one with them. Now relax. Feel yourself again surrounded by infinite love, which will return to you the energy you gave away. You’ll feel filled up and at piece.
